|OT| Dating Thread | One right swap at the time

[NarohDethan]

Thanks to popular demand, the Dating Thread is here! Title is provisional until someone comes up with a better one.

When I get a PC I’ll embellish this thread more, meanwhile, please share your dating stories, progress or advice here!

 

[Le Pertti]

Awesome!

I'm taking a break from dating apps for a moment, at least until corona calms down.

 

[Ruvon]

I thought it was a thread for Metacouncil members to meet up and date

 

[Le Pertti]

I thought it was a thread for Metacouncil members to meet up and date

It can be that too!

 

[Hektor]

I know i shouldn't get hung up on this, but i still feel frustrated.
Already happens rarely enough that i feel like i have a connection with someone on one of those god forsaken apps, so for once, i was actually getting my hopes up.

That's what i get for reinstalling this trash.

 

[Le Pertti]

I know i shouldn't get hung up on this, but i still feel frustrated.
Already happens rarely enough that i feel like i have a connection with someone on one of those god forsaken apps, so for once, i was actually getting my hopes up.

That's what i get for reinstalling this trash.

Yeah it's tough getting over someone that one had genuine hopes for, just let it take time and realise there will be others. Your hopes were mostly what you projected onto her, so what you have to let go off is your fantasy of her.

Last date I was on, it went amazingly, got along great, lots of kissing and she told she wanted to meet again, even told so in texts afterwards but then ghosted me for weeks and then I got a text she wasn't interested. So I just have to let go off the fantasy I had of her, who I thought she was and realise I didn't know her and she was right in that we didn't click more than just that moment in time. It's ok, I value the experience and move on. Sure I still get sad when thinking of what could have been but I also know that I always feel that for the last girl I was with, so I just go onto the next and then I will be over the last.

 

[Hektor]

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It really fucking frustrates me.
I don't even mind getting rejected all that much, i've always been capable of dealing with failure, but it makes me INSANE i can't even find a girl to reject me. Like, that's the issue at the most basic level, the lack of girls.

Doesn't help that I've always had a lack of interest for about 50% of the human population at large lol.

 

[NarohDethan]

of course I shouldn’t say what everyone should do with their money but I really don’t recommend paying premium for dating apps. After all, they need you to keep spending money

 

[Le Pertti]

My american ex is the only one to reach out to me and check how I'm doing in the middle of all this corona stuff. I really did mess up letting her go. Not only was she smart, cool and pretty but yeah she really cared about me.

 

[NarohDethan]

I wish I was more interesting so I could have more friends, especially female friends. I guess there’s a limit to the nerd talk

 

[Le Pertti]

I wish I was more interesting so I could have more friends, especially female friends. I guess there’s a limit to the nerd talk

Haha yeah, talk about video games or tech is something I never do, usually not even with my female friends. Even when it comes to guys only a handful actually like talking about it. But I'm also super nerdy haha!

But it's good to make an effort to find new things to be interested by, do things that are interesting and so on. Try to find something else to be passionate about that is so cool that it balances out the passion for video games.

 

[Hektor]

Someone had this as her OKC profile picture...

 

[Hektor]

How you go about dating in a quarantine?

I noticed the apps have immensiely increased activity now, but it's kinda pointless if you can't even invite someone to a coffee anyways.

At least one girl i chatted with might wants to play some online games with me, so that's something at least!

 

[Le Pertti]

How you go about dating in a quarantine?

I noticed the apps have immensiely increased activity now, but it's kinda pointless if you can't even invite someone to a coffee anyways.

At least one girl i chatted with might wants to play some online games with me, so that's something at least!

Yeah I also noticed that things are more active. Hell, I have had people reach out to me for online play(not the video game kind), taking the first step which is normally rare!

But I'm not that engaged with people on normal dating apps since as you say, knowing one can't meet up makes it seem boring.

 

[Hektor]

Yeah I also noticed that things are more active. Hell, I have had people reach out to me for online play(not the video game kind), taking the first step which is normally rare!

Bruh

Why are you so successful with all of this wth

What's your secrettttt???

 

[Le Pertti]

Bruh

Why are you so successful with all of this wth

What's your secrettttt???

I'm not that successful, I would even say I'm doing badly at it! BUT it's all about getting yourself out there, the more people you speak to and meet, the more comfortable you get with it.

 

[Le Pertti]

People are so thirsty now! I have never ever experienced girls turn regular conversations sexual, in the way we guys can do. Like today I was speaking about spring weather and she tells its spring in her panties haha! I love this new trend.

 

[NarohDethan]

People are so thirsty now! I have never ever experienced girls turn regular conversations sexual, in the way we guys can do. Like today I was speaking about spring weather and she tells its spring in her panties haha! I love this new trend.

lucky you, I’ve barely received any responses

 

[Le Pertti]

lucky you, I’ve barely received any responses

The thing is they are mostly people from other countries, I'm not actually talking to anyone from France nor Paris.

 

[NarohDethan]

i’ve always thought that I’m gonna spend the most of my adult life without a partner, anyway. I think in my private life I’m very uncompromising.

 

[Le Pertti]

i’ve always thought that I’m gonna spend the most of my adult life without a partner, anyway. I think in my private life I’m very uncompromising.

I really recommend that you don't be so picky when it comes to dating. There isn't a "dream girl" and it's good to meet alot of different kinds of people. And the experience you get from that is invaluable.

 

[NarohDethan]

I really recommend that you don't be so picky when it comes to dating. There isn't a "dream girl" and it's good to meet alot of different kinds of people. And the experience you get from that is invaluable.

I know :/ but i seem to have a hard time not being picky

 

[NarohDethan]

I think the Tinder profiles that say ‘I don’t talk much here follow me on Instagram’ are very funny

 

[Le Pertti]

I think the Tinder profiles that say ‘I don’t talk much here follow me on Instagram’ are very funny

Haha yeah and those that only write out their insta on their bio, I just swipe left on those.

 

[Hektor]

I think the Tinder profiles that say ‘I don’t talk much here follow me on Instagram’ are very funny

Pretty sure those are just looking to increase their follower count on insta

 

[NarohDethan]

Pretty sure those are just looking to increase their follower count on insta

I know, I just find it kinda pathetic.
Also I have developed aversion for people whose main picture is them in a boat. I can’t find a more boring, wasteful way to have ‘fun’.

But what do I know.

 

[Le Pertti]

Seems I never learn, I repeatedly tell I will never do long-distance yet here I am talking with a girl from Berlin and we seem to be quite into each other.

 

[NarohDethan]

I set my Tinder location to Japan but I dunno if it is a bad idea

 

[Le Pertti]

I set my Tinder location to Japan but I dunno if it is a bad idea

Just don't mention you are into anime haha!

 

[NarohDethan]

Just don't mention you are into anime haha!

Never!

 

[Le Pertti]

Things fell apart with the German girl and it felt worse than it usually does. I think it's just the culmination of the state of the world and that girls just coma and go so quickly now, one starts to lose hope.

 

[NarohDethan]

No likes so far



Fuck

 

[Le Pertti]

No likes so far



Fuck

Maybe Tinder isn't the main dating app in Japan? Find the one most use and use it instead?

 

[NarohDethan]

Maybe Tinder isn't the main dating app in Japan? Find the one most use and use it instead?

There seems to be a lot of people in there. To be fair my profile sucks and my main pic is me wearing a Japan soccer jersey because that’s what I was wearing when I opened the account, I guess it looks tacky to the Japanese.

 

[Le Pertti]

There seems to be a lot of people in there. To be fair my profile sucks and my main pic is me wearing a Japan soccer jersey because that’s what I was wearing when I opened the account, I guess it looks tacky to the Japanese.

Yeah that might be a slight red flag for some. Time to take some new selfies!

 

[Hektor]

I think it would help to not come off as a weeb fetishizing japanese people, no offense lol

 

[NarohDethan]

I think it would help to not come off as a weeb fetishizing japanese people, no offense lol

There, I changed it.

 

[NarohDethan]

So I found the girl I had a crush some years ago on Tinder. I think a Super Like would spook her.
Wat do.
Edit: fuck it

 

[Le Pertti]

So I found the girl I had a crush some years ago on Tinder. I think a Super Like would spook her.
Wat do.
Edit: fuck it

How did it go? Heard that women don't really like super likes.

 

[NarohDethan]

How did it go? Heard that women don't really like super likes.

I havent heard back from her ahahah

 

[NarohDethan]

Haven’t heard back from her, I guess I’m fucked xD

 

[Le Pertti]

NarohDethan Yeah never expect anything from dating apps, the chances are low, so Ive said it before but its all about numbers.

 

[NarohDethan]

NarohDethan Yeah never expect anything from dating apps, the chances are low, so Ive said it before but its all about numbers.

It’s okay, if it isnt meant to be, or not right now, it is not like I’m hurting for love.

 

[Hektor]

I guess I’m fucked xD

Wouldn't that have been the endgoal

 

[NarohDethan]

Wouldn't that have been the endgoal

Hahah. This girl has more or less the ‘I want to protect her’ vibe. I did crush on her quite hard some years ago.

 

[NarohDethan]

Sometime ago, a girl I honestly matched by accident, started asking about what I liked the most of her face, body, etc. But I wasn’t attracted to her in the slightest. How do you escape such situations?

 

[Le Pertti]

Sometime ago, a girl I honestly matched by accident, started asking about what I liked the most of her face, body, etc. But I wasn’t attracted to her in the slightest. How do you escape such situations?

Just unmatch?

 

[NarohDethan]

Just unmatch?

I thought that could be a bit rude

 

[Hektor]

Lie like a fucking gentleman

 

[Le Pertti]

I thought that could be a bit rude

Stop wasting your and others time!