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Monooboe

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I can really relate to that. Do you know grounding exercises?


They don't fix the cause but they can help you in the moment, and with practice perhaps you can reason and unlearn the harsh and hostile judgment you are probably passing on yourself. That is not to say there aren't problems you can solve but making things a little lighter on your shoulders is never a bad idea.
Thanks! Will keep it mind, but feels like I don't like anything at the moment or to do anything. But I get money in a few days so that always makes me happy for a few days haha!
 

Swenhir

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Thanks! Will keep it mind, but feels like I don't like anything at the moment or to do anything. But I get money in a few days so that always makes me happy for a few days haha!
I don't know much about your situation but do you have a thing that really makes sense for you, a thing whose absence really makes you hit rock bottom? Figuring out what makes you think this about your life and articulating it could be a first step to resolve it.

I know this is probably a "no shit sherlock" piece of advice but I personally needed it to try and stop judging myself by standards I, deep down, don't give a damn about.
 
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I dreamed of myself drinking the entire night, I feel like I'd be back to drinking if I didn't have so much work. 💩
 
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Anteater

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Taking a break from running/jogging first time in 16 months, because my legs are tired.

Going as bad as I thought it would, I'm going to need other exercises that I can do or sleep the entire day.
 

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Something that always irks me is the advice that "you need to learn to love yourself before you can be loved by others"
How am i supposed to know what love even is like?
How am i supposed to "love myself" if there have been some too many people telling me in very long, and hurtful ways that i am, in fact, not worth loving?

I don't wanna get too upsetti at this statement because people are usually trying to be nice when they say that methinks, but reality is that it's very counter productive, because it's just saying that it is impossible to find love.
 

NarohDethan

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Something that always irks me is the advice that "you need to learn to love yourself before you can be loved by others"
How am i supposed to know what love even is like?
How am i supposed to "love myself" if there have been some too many people telling me in very long, and hurtful ways that i am, in fact, not worth loving?

I don't wanna get too upsetti at this statement because people are usually trying to be nice when they say that methinks, but reality is that it's very counter productive, because it's just saying that it is impossible to find love.
People who truly care about you won’t tell you that you’re unlikable. Don’t listen to them.
 
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Swenhir

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Something that always irks me is the advice that "you need to learn to love yourself before you can be loved by others"
How am i supposed to know what love even is like?
How am i supposed to "love myself" if there have been some too many people telling me in very long, and hurtful ways that i am, in fact, not worth loving?

I don't wanna get too upsetti at this statement because people are usually trying to be nice when they say that methinks, but reality is that it's very counter productive, because it's just saying that it is impossible to find love.
It's also pretty heartless because as you said, unless you get help that would mean you are doomed to remain alone which does nothing to help you. It's kind of leaving you there to rot without offering any concrete help while implying pretty hurtful things about you. I still think the saying kind of hints at the right idea and warns about toxic relationships, but it certainly does nothing to sympathize with the person who doesn't love itself or offer a path forward.

Also, holy crap, I'm sorry people did that to you. There's no justification for telling that to someone, especially in the way you hint at :(. As NarohDethan said, people who are worthy of being in your life at all don't speak to you like that.

As for how it feels and what it is like, I think you may know the answer deep down but it's incredibly hard for people who have been abused to allow themselves to believe that little voice inside telling them they are simply alright just the way they are. It's definitively possible and it's a feeling, a vision of yourself that is hard to put into words, If I had to sum it up, it's that there is nothing fundamentally wrong with you, quite the opposite.

If it was possible for you, I would recommend talking to a professional because that's no way to live and you deserve help.
 
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Monooboe

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I've started to notice a thing with my dating, like yesterday I met someone, it went great but today I get zero interest in her texts, so I just deleted her. It seems to the same most of the time.

Sure I should be happy I even get the chance to date but its just breaks my heart everytime and completely drains me.

Then my psychiatrist seem to have vanished and Swedish student debt thingie has started to transfer it over to french companies so now I keep getting letters from everywhere.

Everything just seems so fucking impossible.
 
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BlindRhythm

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I've started to notice a thing with my dating, like yesterday I met someone, it went great but today I get zero interest in her texts, so I just deleted her. It seems to the same most of the time.

Sure I should be happy I even get the chance to date but its just breaks my heart everytime and completely drains me.

Then my psychiatrist seem to have vanished and Swedish student debt thingie has started to transfer it over to french companies so now I keep getting letters from everywhere.

Everything just seems so fucking impossible.
Life certainly has a way of making you feel small at times. Even when things are mostly normal there's seemingly always something around the corner to undo it.

Being stuck in that rut where things don't seem to go right or when things that should be happy moments just aren't for one reason or another is so deflating. I've been there far too often as well.

I know it's easier said than done but my best advice would be to take some time for yourself, do some other things you love like your photography, and just kind of shut your mind off for a while. You take amazing photos and losing yourself in a passion like that for a little while can do wonders.

I also hope that your psychiatrist comes back. That's odd they would vanish like that without leaving a message or informing their office or the receptionists so they can tell patients.

In the meantime I can offer a hug at least! :cat-heart-blob:



Any suggestions for work burnout? There’s days where I barely get anything done
The easiest way I can think of would be to take a vacation but I know that's not always possible unfortunately.

You could also try talking with any co-workers you're close with and see if they're going through or have gone through the same in the past and hopefully they'll be able to share some of the methods they use/used.

Though if there aren't too many folks you can talk to at work about it I'd suggest trying to take a brief moment to yourself here or there throughout the day if possible. Try to relax and just breathe. Clear your mind the best you can. Then when you're ready to get started again just focus on the stuff you can handle in that moment and try not to worry too much about things that could or might happen later.

From the times we've talked I know you care a great deal about a lot of the work you do there and I'm willing to bet folks see that and will understand if you need some time occasionally. :photoblobheart: