Support Come and load off your mental struggles

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I will throw a bunch of ideas and you do you:
  • see a therapist,
  • practice some outdoor activities,
  • since you have a job, you may have the money to subscribe to a gym, or an association to do some sports like martial arts or boxing.
It is harder to motivate someone to do something which you suggest to them, rather than meet people who independently decided to do the same thing you decided to do. I feel like you will meet new people in the process of doing a new activity.
 
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Swenhir

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Thanks... I appreciate you.

I don't have enough posts to view this, which is making me laugh for some reason :face-with-tears-of-joy: but thanks for taking the time to reply to my post. It means a lot.
I'm sorry! Here it is again, I thought you were a member and I try to avoid the possibilities of lurkers seeing posts like these too easily.

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Just wanted to say that I appreciate all of you.
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I hope things get better for you :cat-heart-blob: Yeah, there are plenty of incredible people both here in Meta and irl that offer support, but there's this sense of being a burden that everyone is better off without, and sometimes I can't quite shake off this feeling. I guess I'll have to overcome that.
Thanks again for your kind words :cat-heart-blob:
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Thanks for your support :cat-heart-blob: Yeah, I'll do that. Hope they also manage to be healthy and happy :cat-heart-blob:
 

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Just wanted to thank all of you for your support and kind words. I appreciate you.

I hope things get better for you :cat-heart-blob: Yeah, there are plenty of incredible people both here in Meta and irl that offer support, but there's this sense of being a burden that everyone is better off without, and sometimes I can't quite shake off this feeling. I guess I'll have to overcome that.
Thanks again for your kind words :cat-heart-blob:

Thanks for your support :cat-heart-blob: Yeah, I'll do that. Hope they also manage to be healthy and happy :cat-heart-blob:
Oh no, I should have worded my post a little better! I apologize if it came across as trying to shift focus to my personal struggles with depression. Though I do really appreciate the well wishes, thank you! Things have been better for me lately. :photoblobheart:

I totally understand that feeling of being a burden. That's where my mind usually goes too and gets stuck there for a while. It's one of the more difficult thoughts to overcome but I got a good piece of advice from a good friend that helped me a lot. If folks thought you were a burden or didn't want you around they wouldn't want to spend time with you in the first place or would have left a long time ago.

Trust your friends and family. They clearly want you around, they aren't just tolerating or humoring you. Don't be afraid to rely on them when you're feeling down or not quite yourself. It's what true friends and family are for after all, to help pick those up that they care about.

Like take me for example, while you and I have only chatted a few times on Meta and usually just this thread, I don't see you as a burden at all. I see you as someone who might be struggling with certain feelings or thoughts in that moment that could use some cheering up. And while I can't speak for everyone in this thread I know that it's something I don't mind doing at all. :blobhug:
 
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Oh no, I should have worded my post a little better! I apologize if it came across as trying to shift focus to my personal struggles with depression. Though I do really appreciate the well wishes, thank you! Things have been better for me lately. :photoblobheart:

I totally understand that feeling of being a burden. That's where my mind usually goes too and gets stuck there for a while. It's one of the more difficult thoughts to overcome but I got a good piece of advice from a good friend that helped me a lot. If folks thought you were a burden or didn't want you around they wouldn't want to spend time with you in the first place or would have left a long time ago.

Trust your friends and family. They clearly want you around, they aren't just tolerating or humoring you. Don't be afraid to rely on them when you're feeling down or not quite yourself. It's what true friends and family are for after all, to help pick those up that they care about.

Like take me for example, while you and I have only chatted a few times on Meta and usually just this thread, I don't see you as a burden at all. I see you as someone who might be struggling with certain feelings or thoughts in that moment that could use some cheering up. And while I can't speak for everyone in this thread I know that it's something I don't mind doing at all. :blobhug:
Your post didn't come across that at all, no apology needed :cat-heart-blob: You've helped me several times in this thread, and I just wanted to wish you success and happiness in your personal struggles :blobhug:
That's a really really good advice. I'll try to keep that in mind.
And I should get a little more active in other threads :cold-sweat::face-with-tears-of-joy:
 
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Thanks lash! I had no second thoughts about hitting that hug reaction, your support always means a lot and I knew it would be heartfelt. :photoblobheart:

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Swenhir

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lashman Right there with you. Nothing has made me feels as worthless as not being able to afford normal things that it seems everyone can afford. As it was a personal failing. But we have to remember poverty isn't shameful and it doesn't tie into the worth of a person. You should judge that by how valued you are by everyone here!
I would go one further and say that society wields shame in entirely inappropriate and brutal ways. You have nothing to be ashamed about lash.
 

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Is anyone else really NOT looking forward to christmas this year?
I already know my mental health is gonna hit rock bottom this time around,
Standards are already low for me this time of the year, but this year i won't have any private christmas celebrations (as usual), no work related celebrations because of COVID, no wintermarkets to chill out in the masses with some mulled wine either AND for me personally, i have this particular struggle that i really tried to find some people to celebrate this year with, and didn't manage to.

I'm gonna drink a lot of alc, that's for sure.
 
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Is anyone else really NOT looking forward to christmas this year?
I already know my mental health is gonna hit rock bottom this time around,
Standards are already low for me this time of the year, but this year i won't have any private christmas celebrations (as usual), no work related celebrations because of COVID, no wintermarkets to chill out in the masses with some mulled wine either AND for me personally, i have this particular struggle that i really tried to find some people to celebrate this year with, and didn't manage to.

I'm gonna drink a lot of alc, that's for sure.
I've been alone on Christmas like for a decade so at this point I don't really celebrate it, it's just another day. But I do try to eat chocolate and try to make dinner that's little nicer than I usually do. And yeah say my happy Christmases here on MC.;D
 
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Swenhir

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Is anyone else really NOT looking forward to christmas this year?
I already know my mental health is gonna hit rock bottom this time around,
Standards are already low for me this time of the year, but this year i won't have any private christmas celebrations (as usual), no work related celebrations because of COVID, no wintermarkets to chill out in the masses with some mulled wine either AND for me personally, i have this particular struggle that i really tried to find some people to celebrate this year with, and didn't manage to.

I'm gonna drink a lot of alc, that's for sure.
I believe that's the plan here too. Don't indulge in Alcohol much normally, but christmas is a time I tend to drown given the trainwreck of a family life I have.
 
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NarohDethan

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Is anyone else really NOT looking forward to christmas this year?
I already know my mental health is gonna hit rock bottom this time around,
Standards are already low for me this time of the year, but this year i won't have any private christmas celebrations (as usual), no work related celebrations because of COVID, no wintermarkets to chill out in the masses with some mulled wine either AND for me personally, i have this particular struggle that i really tried to find some people to celebrate this year with, and didn't manage to.

I'm gonna drink a lot of alc, that's for sure.

For some reason I like spending Holidays alone, and my birthday. But I empathize with you. I hope you can find some comfort with the things you have within your grasp ;)
 
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All I want is to find someone and start a family. And that has been hard because being poor doesn't really instill confidence in potential partners.

But not only that, I did a sperm test to see if something was up and doesn't look good, even if everything would go my way to actually have kids would be hard.

So yeah feels like all the things and everything I wanted in life was never for me. What I have left I can't even enjoy. Here I was thinking that depression was something I was getting out of but if seems it's the only thing I will have.
 

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All I want is to find someone and start a family. And that has been hard because being poor doesn't really instill confidence in potential partners.

But not only that, I did a sperm test to see if something was up and doesn't look good, even if everything would go my way to actually have kids would be hard.

So yeah feels like all the things and everything I wanted in life was never for me. What I have left I can't even enjoy. Here I was thinking that depression was something I was getting out of but if seems it's the only thing I will have.
In the current situation with the pandemic going on it may be a bit more difficult to meet people, but once this thing ends try to look into hobbies and you may find people.

Iirc you're living in France right? Don't now if you have friends there but maybe they know someone and may introduce them to you. This is how I met my SO, we were introduced by mutual friends and it just started as a friendship.

About kids there's the option to adopt, it was something that we considered if we were unable to have kids.

We all have our expectations and dreams and as someone who also had dealt with depression I know that feel of when things don't happens the way we expected but don't give up. :)
 
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In the current situation with the pandemic going on it may be a bit more difficult to meet people, but once this thing ends try to look into hobbies and you may find people.

Iirc you're living in France right? Don't now if you have friends there but maybe they know someone and may introduce them to you. This is how I met my SO, we were introduced by mutual friends and it just started as a friendship.

About kids there's the option to adopt, it was something that we considered if we were unable to have kids.

We all have our expectations and dreams and as someone who also had dealt with depression I know that feel of when things don't happens the way we expected but don't give up. :)
Yeah I live in Paris and pretty much all my socialising has been either hanging out here in MC or on dates. I realise I should be making friends!

I think my biggest problem is that I'm already 41 and my life is a mess. Sure I'm working on it but where I am at this point if I want to have a family I should have been twenty years ago if that makes sense? I have to just wing it going forward and hope for the best. Building for a family was the only guiding light I had but since that is so unsure now I don't know what to do. All my dating has been about building a family since no one I've met are interesting in something without that aspect, how the hell can I date when it's not even sure I can give them children?
 

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Yeah I live in Paris and pretty much all my socialising has been either hanging out here in MC or on dates. I realise I should be making friends!

I think my biggest problem is that I'm already 41 and my life is a mess. Sure I'm working on it but where I am at this point if I want to have a family I should have been twenty years ago if that makes sense? I have to just wing it going forward and hope for the best. Building for a family was the only guiding light I had but since that is so unsure now I don't know what to do. All my dating has been about building a family since no one I've met are interesting in something without that aspect, how the hell can I date when it's not even sure I can give them children?
The bold part makes total sense but try to not put much pressure on yourself. My youngest brother was conceived when my parents were 47 and 42. About the sperm test, is there any treatment for it?
 

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The bold part makes total sense but try to not put much pressure on yourself. My youngest brother was conceived when my parents were 47 and 42. About the sperm test, is there any treatment for it?
I haven't seen a doctor but I don't it's totally hopeless. As for treatment, don't think so, other than getting in shape and eating much better. But I can barely afford one banana and one canned vegetables per day and they recommend five fruits and lots of fresh vegetables haha!
 
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I haven't seen a doctor but I don't it's totally hopeless. As for treatment, don't think so, other than getting in shape and eating much better. But I can barely afford one banana and one canned vegetables per day and they recommend five fruits and lots of fresh vegetables haha!
You will manage to pass through it and we will be hear when you find the need to vent. :cat-heart-blob:
 
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